Terrible Two

自從 2010 年, 彤彤由一個一向聽教聽話, 斯文淡定嘅可人兒, 慢慢變成一個愛哭鬧, 愛扭計, 發脾氣嘅麻煩友

一唔啱心意就喊, 咩都唔做叫嚷着要瞓覺 <-- 根本就係逃避, 又或者搵避難所, 不停叫要 mami 抱

我深信佢已經進入 Terrible Two, 所以 papa 同我每日都係進行 EQ 訓練, 要用唔同方法令佢平靜, 因為佢根本唔 aware 自己為何唔 like, 為何發脾氣, 同佢硬碰硬根本於事無補, 因為佢嘅硬頸程度深得佢父母真傳...

例子(一)
有晚同 Narti 姐姐係地墊玩, 興高采烈之下, 成個 remote control 掟向姐姐, mama 要佢即時同姐姐 say sorry, 佢死都唔肯, 扭計喊住話要瞓覺, 我又鬧, papa 又氹, 都唔妥協, 我最後忍無可忍打了佢手板兩大下, 連我自己都感到痛, 佢都無動於終

例子(二)
有晚無故發脾氣, 唔比 mama 離開睡房出去飲水, 因為我通常借水盹, 可以逃離現場去 check 下 email, 可能佢洞悉到我嘅奸計... 亂喊唔停, 抱又唔停, 氹又唔受, 喊到已經距離嘔吐不遠矣 (因為喊到嘔係佢殺手𢵧) 我好醒目地抱佢入 toilet 準備, 點知又冇咩動靜, 我嬲嬲地抱佢返上床狠狠地打了佢 pat pat 兩大下, 係除咗褲係尿片旁邊打, 我隻手幾鬼痛, 不過都係超硬頸, 睬我都傻

自此之後, 我同 papa 講, 我唔會再打佢, 因為唔 work, 而我又手痛, shit !!!

Baby Center 有篇講 Terrible Two, distraction 正正係 papa 常用手法, 似乎對彤彤都幾 work, 希望呢段時間快 d 過, 你變返以前個乖乖女 la~~~

Terrible twos preview

You've been warned about the "terrible
twos," but you may be unprepared for this rite of passage if your child
has been cooperative up until now. The stage doesn't always begin
exactly on your child's second birthday. Development experts say it can
strike as early as 18 months and as late as 30 months (though some
angelic children never go through this phase). How do you know if
you're in the midst of the TTs? Look for new signs of assertiveness
from your toddler. Hallmark behaviors to watch for: He may insist on
doing exactly what you've told him not to do or throw himself down on
the floor in a fit of temper if he doesn't get his way. His demands may
alternately frustrate and amuse you. At times, for example, he'll
likely ask for something that he doesn't even want, just to see if he
has enough power to get it.

What you can do

Though
you may be tempted to cry and throw yourself on the floor, too, the
best thing to do during a temper episode is keep your cool, stay close
to your child, and let him release his feelings. A hug and a shoulder
to cry on may be all that some toddlers need to feel better, while
others may benefit from the distraction technique — offer him another
activity or toy.

If you're in a public place or at someone's
house, pick up your child and take him someplace where the two of you
can sit calmly until the feelings subside. Save the time-outs until
he's old enough to understand and follow rules, sometime between ages 2
and 3.